
“Optimism is the one quality more associated with success than any other”
– Brian Tracy
We all face challenges now and again, but it is our reaction to those challenges that determine how quickly we can overcome them. There are typically two types of vies people have towards challenges: Optimistic or Pessimistic. While everyone may have a natural tendency to have one outlook or the other, your ability to find an optimistic view towards challenges will impact your overall success.
So here are 5 tips that you can use when faced with a challenge to ensure that you remain optimistic.
6. Control Your Reactions And Your Responses
When faced with a challenge an optimist and a pessimist tend to have very different reactions. The optimist sees a setback as temporary, while the pessimist sees it as permanent. The optimist sees an unfortunate event, such as an order falling through or not closing a sales call, as a temporary event, something that is limited in time and has no real impact on the future.
The pessimist, on the other hand, sees negative events as permanent, as part of life and destiny. So when you find yourself in this situation, take a moment to reflect on the challenge before you react. Try to visualise the next step towards improvement rather than responding to the setbacks that you have no control over.
5. Isolate The Incident
Another difference between the optimist and the pessimist is that the optimist sees difficulties as a singular event, while the pessimist sees them as universal. This means that when things go wrong for the optimist, he or she looks at the event as an isolated incident largely disconnected from other things that are going on in their life. A pessimist will take the incident and add it to the laundry list of other things going on in their life.
They have a largely negative outlook on everything and tend to expand the stress they feel towards one issue, onto other, unrelated areas of their life. So to remain positive, try to remind yourself that just because you are facing a setback in one area — whether that be a project at work falling behind or not hitting a milestone set — does not mean that the entire goal is obsolete. You may simply need to modify your plan.
4. See Setbacks As Temporary Events
For example, if a project you were on failed to materialize and you interpreted it to yourself as being an unfortunate event, but something that happens in course of life and business, you would be reacting like an optimist. The pessimist, on the other hand, sees disappointments, as more permanent. If you find yourself in this situation take a moment to remind yourself you are always capable of making a change and nothing is set in stone.
3. Don’t Take Failure Personally
It can be extremely difficult at times to see the positive side of failure. An optimist sees events as external, while pessimists interpret events as personal. When things go wrong, the optimist will tend to see the setback as a resulting from external factors over which one has little control.
An optimist tries not to take a situation personally. Although failure is not something anyone wants to deal with, the optimist uses it as a learning opportunity. If the optimist is cut off in traffic, for example, instead of getting angry or upset, he will simply downgrade the importance of the event by saying something like, “Oh well, I guess that person is just having a bad day.”
The optimist doesn’t think they were cut off because that person had malicious intentions against them. The pessimist, on the other hand, tends to take everything personally. If the pessimist is cut off in traffic, he or she will react as though the other driver has deliberately acted to upset and frustrate them.
2. Remain Calm
This is easier said than done when challenges arise. The hallmark of the fully mature, fully functioning, self-actualising personality is the ability to be objective and unemotional when caught up in the inevitable storms of daily life. The superior person can continue talking to himself positively and optimistically, keeping his mind calm, clear and completely under control.
The mature personality is more relaxed and aware and more capable of interpreting events more realistically and less emotionally than is the immature personality. As a result, the mature person exerts a far greater sense of control and influence over his or her environment and if far less likely to be angry, upset or distracted. If you feel overwhelmed or like your blood is boiling, practice being calm in these situations.
1. Look At The Bigger Picture And The Long Run
You have to recognise the inevitable setbacks you face are temporary and external. View the negative situation as a single event that is not connected to other potential events and that is caused largely by other external factors over which you can have very little control. Simply refuse to see the event as being in any way permanent, pervasive or indicative of personal incompetence of inability.
Resolve to think like an optimist, no matter what happens. You may not be able to control events but you can control the way you react to them. The earlier you learn this, the happier you will be in life.
How will you implement these tips to become more optimistic in your life? Thanks for reading. And remember as Brian Tracy always says “If you want to change your future, take action and take action now.”